Posted by on January 28, 2014 | 0 comments

The Names We Call Ourselves

I had two interesting interactions at the gym today which reminded me how the labels we give ourselves can define who we become. One was a conversation with a woman I’d seen many times at the gym but never had a conversation with. We got chatting, and early on in the conversation she told me she was really lazy. She repeated this statement at least four times, stressing that her laziness was beginning to bother her. As evidence to prove to me just how lazy she was she told me that she often comes to gym just to sit in the café and mess around on her iPad. She also frequently misses deadlines. She suspects she may be depressed – which may have an element of truth – but the fact that she labels herself lazy doesn’t help her mental state. What chance does she have when she so readily tells me – a relative stranger – just how lazy she is? She is shackling herself in a disempowering...

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Posted by on January 21, 2014 | 0 comments

Turning Down the Noise

I’ve been asked to appear in a video that’s being filmed tomorrow. It’s by the company that administered the writing course that started this incredible journey for me. I will be asked about my experiences of the course, and it will be used in the company’s promotional campaigns. This is an awesome opportunity for me! I will get to talk about my upcoming memoir, to inspire others to pursue their writing dreams, and to give back to a course that changed my life. After all, the foundations for my award-winning memoir were laid during the 16 weeks that I was on that non-fiction writing course. When the request came, I was thrilled. But almost as soon as these feelings of elation and excitement arose, I felt a knot tighten in my stomach. A familiar voice in my head piped up: “What will I say? Does my hair need a touch-up? What about the 3kg I put on over the festive season – I’ll look huge!” And so it droned on....

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Posted by on January 16, 2014 | 0 comments

The Price of Transformation

The Price of Transformation

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” –  Maya Angelou Isn’t it fascinating that a butterfly arises out of the liquefied remains of a caterpillar? That is the price of its transformation. Like the lowly caterpillar, we too must pay the price in order to transform our lives and our circumstances. We do this by letting go of our former selves, surrendering to the forces of change, and trusting that we will emerge majestic and unlimited from the process. Shoo, sounds like a big ask, huh?! Completely letting go, surrender, trust … these are concepts that leave many of us quivering at the prospect. Like most mortals I often resist change, even when I know it’s the best thing for me. I cling to behaviours and beliefs that don’t serve me, merely because they are familiar. Sometimes I feel that I have to drag myself kicking and screaming towards a greater sense of authenticity. Transformation is...

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Posted by on January 8, 2014 | 0 comments

The Naysayer Within

It’s that time of year when we are all conscious of the new commitments we’ve made for the year ahead: Eat more healthily Drink less Exercise regularly Make time to meditate Be more diligent about saving …and so the intentions go. Unfortunately this is also prime season for the inner voice telling us it can’t be done. It usually goes something like this: you want to eat more healthily? What about that 40th birthday party you’ve just been invited to? And Valentine’s Day treats, Easter chocolate goodies soon after that? What’s the point? You’re bound to fail. This voice pipes up for every credible intention we have, and it is whether we choose to listen to this voice that will make the difference between achieving great results this year or not. I used to think that really successful people were especially skilled and talented, but I’ve since learned that success has little to do with skill or talent. Sure, it takes something to be successful, but by far one...

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