Posted by on August 31, 2017 | 2 comments

Change Your Story, Change Your Life

  The other day a member of the audience came to me after I had delivered a talk and she said: “Wow, your story is so powerful!” I thanked her, and I also shared with her that I had chosen to tell a powerful story of my life. Here’s what I mean: I qualified as a medical doctor but found that I struggled to find meaning in what I was doing when I was working in the public health system. I then took the decision to leave the profession and I’ve since reinvented myself as an author, speaker and coach. Those are the facts of the events that happened. Now for the story. The initial story I created out of those facts was: “I have failed. I’ve let people down. I’ve let myself down.” This was a story of guilt, shame and disappointment. This was certainly not a powerful story. Here’s the story I now tell: “As a little girl I had big dreams of changing the world. I became a...

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Posted by on August 16, 2017 | 2 comments

“Ek kan nie meer nie” and Other Lies We Tell Ourselves

When I was a 4th year medical student we were required to do an 8 week rotation in Obstetrics and Gynaecology. During the obstetric component of the block we were each given a log book in which to track the number of babies we delivered as well as the procedures such as forceps deliveries and episiotomies we observed. When I first got to the labour wards I was excited! This was our first real foray into hands-on doctoring; before that most of our work had been theoretical. I especially looked forward to helping to bring new life into the world. It took no time at all for me to become familiar with the phrase “ek kan nie meer nie”, Afrikaans for “I can’t (do this) anymore”. The women would scream it during the final phases of labour, when the pain felt too much to bear. Some would ask for an epidural, while others would insist that they be taken straight to theater for a caesarean section. A small proportion...

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Posted by on August 10, 2017 | 1 comment

How to Sustain Your Success

Have you ever achieved a great result and then a few weeks later wondered where it all went? Do you often experience peaks and troughs in your business, or find yourself constantly dealing with feast-or-famine in terms of the revenue you generate? Success is great, but unfortunately it also comes with a certain amount of fear attached to it. What? That’s right. Sometimes it’s not failure we fear, but success. Here’s how the fear of success can sometimes manifest: You dismiss your success as “luck” or “coincidence”, and you diminish your role in achieving it. You tell yourself “it won’t last” and you start to anticipate how it’s all going to blow up in your face. You keep reaching for the next thing, so that you’re always striving and never arriving. You talk down your success, with the excuse of not wanting to make others feel bad. The Universe has an uncanny way of taking us on our word, and in no time you will find yourself not following...

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