Are You Going Through Hell?
Winston Churchill famously said: “If you are going through hell, keep going.”
We all go through our moments of hell:
- Business failures or job losses.
- Relationship disappointments and betrayals.
- Illness or the loss of loved ones.
When we are going through these tough times it can be difficult to even consider that we’ll recover from them. I remember the really challenging periods in my own life where I felt as if I had hit rock bottom:
- When my brother – my only sibling – died tragically when I was 14 years old.
- Leaving medical practice. Being a doctor had been my childhood dream.
- The years after leaving medicine when I had to start from scratch to rebuild my professional life.
- Challenges I’ve faced in my relationship.
- Financial difficulties.
Sometimes it feels as if life is a series of challenges, interspersed with brief periods of happiness.
Of course, that isn’t the case. It’s more like a marathon: it’s tough, it demands a lot of us, and there are many times along the way when we feel we can’t keep going. And as in long-distance running, the tough times in life help us to build strength, resilience and the courage to keep going.
So, if you are going through your own version of hell right now, remember the following:
“This too shall pass.” Look back on all the challenges you’ve faced and come through in the past and take comfort from the fact that you got through them. You will again.
Focus on what’s working. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in all that’s going wrong that we forget the things in our lives that are working.
You are not the only one. Everyone goes through the fire at some point.
Take heed of the lessons, especially if this is a repeating pattern. What are you not seeing? What can you let go of? What new way of being can you take on?
Difficulties are an integral part of this adventure we call life. Success comes when we embrace the challenges instead of shrinking from them; when we take the knocks and allow ourselves to be strengthened.