Posted by on September 13, 2017 | 1 comment

Fail Like You Mean It

What am I doing telling you to fail? Well, there’s meaning in my madness. This is what I mean when I encourage you to fail like you mean it: Dare. Many people have lofty dreams but never get round to giving them a go. They are afraid to fail; some even fear success because of the added responsibility it might entail. Nothing will happen if you don’t dare; neither failure nor success. Is that really what you want? Take action. Nothing demonstrates commitment like action. Too often people take only tentative steps in the direction of their dreams; they hold back “in case”. Nothing changes without action. Jump in and do what it takes to turn your dream into reality. Half-hearted measures yield half-baked results. Believe in yourself. There are no guarantees. You could put in massive action and still find that you don’t succeed. Believing in yourself will keep you going even when the going gets tough. Get back up. You will fail at something at some point in...

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Posted by on August 31, 2017 | 2 comments

Change Your Story, Change Your Life

  The other day a member of the audience came to me after I had delivered a talk and she said: “Wow, your story is so powerful!” I thanked her, and I also shared with her that I had chosen to tell a powerful story of my life. Here’s what I mean: I qualified as a medical doctor but found that I struggled to find meaning in what I was doing when I was working in the public health system. I then took the decision to leave the profession and I’ve since reinvented myself as an author, speaker and coach. Those are the facts of the events that happened. Now for the story. The initial story I created out of those facts was: “I have failed. I’ve let people down. I’ve let myself down.” This was a story of guilt, shame and disappointment. This was certainly not a powerful story. Here’s the story I now tell: “As a little girl I had big dreams of changing the world. I became a...

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Posted by on August 16, 2017 | 2 comments

“Ek kan nie meer nie” and Other Lies We Tell Ourselves

When I was a 4th year medical student we were required to do an 8 week rotation in Obstetrics and Gynaecology. During the obstetric component of the block we were each given a log book in which to track the number of babies we delivered as well as the procedures such as forceps deliveries and episiotomies we observed. When I first got to the labour wards I was excited! This was our first real foray into hands-on doctoring; before that most of our work had been theoretical. I especially looked forward to helping to bring new life into the world. It took no time at all for me to become familiar with the phrase “ek kan nie meer nie”, Afrikaans for “I can’t (do this) anymore”. The women would scream it during the final phases of labour, when the pain felt too much to bear. Some would ask for an epidural, while others would insist that they be taken straight to theater for a caesarean section. A small proportion...

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Posted by on August 10, 2017 | 1 comment

How to Sustain Your Success

Have you ever achieved a great result and then a few weeks later wondered where it all went? Do you often experience peaks and troughs in your business, or find yourself constantly dealing with feast-or-famine in terms of the revenue you generate? Success is great, but unfortunately it also comes with a certain amount of fear attached to it. What? That’s right. Sometimes it’s not failure we fear, but success. Here’s how the fear of success can sometimes manifest: You dismiss your success as “luck” or “coincidence”, and you diminish your role in achieving it. You tell yourself “it won’t last” and you start to anticipate how it’s all going to blow up in your face. You keep reaching for the next thing, so that you’re always striving and never arriving. You talk down your success, with the excuse of not wanting to make others feel bad. The Universe has an uncanny way of taking us on our word, and in no time you will find yourself not following...

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Posted by on June 21, 2017 | 0 comments

Wisdom Within – You Are Wiser Than you Think!

Do you fear putting yourself out there? Are you uncertain about what you really want? Do you feel confused about why you do what you do? Are you on a path that isn’t your own? If you answered YES to any of these questions, I’ve got news for you: you’re not alone! Far too many people wander through life, uncertain of who they are, what they want or where they are going. Now here’s the really good news: the answers to all your important questions are within reach. All you need is time, attention and the willingness to do the work to uncover them. You have within you a vast source of wisdom waiting for you to tap into it for the answers you’re after. How? By putting pen to paper and reflecting through the practice of journaling. Research has shown that journaling can improve physical health, emotional well-being and work performance. It is the number one personal development practice of successful leaders and CEOs. And, on a personal...

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Posted by on June 14, 2017 | 0 comments

How to Figure Out What You Really Want

I don’t know what my passion is. I’m interested in so many things, I don’t know which one to choose? I don’t want to make a decision. What if I get it wrong? Do any of these statements sound familiar? If so, I’m guessing you’ve spent years trying this and that, dabbling here and there, chopping and changing. You’ve probably got a whole host of diverse skills and experiences, but they don’t feel as if they amount to much. You just don’t know what you want! If this is you, then I’ve got great news for you. It might not seem so great at first, but trust me it is. Just stay with me and you’ll see what I mean. Here it is: You’re afraid. That’s right. It’s not that you don’t know what you want. You do know; you’re just afraid. Who am I to want that? I’m not qualified. How on earth am I going to pull that off? I don’t have the time/money/connections. We all have...

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