Posted by on November 2, 2017 | 1 comment

What Do You Want?

  What do you want? It’s a pretty simple question, right? So why is it that the answer is often far from simple? Here’s a quick tip to help you get clear on what you really want: What insights open up for you by asking the question in a different way? The important questions in life needn’t be the most complicated. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of how we approach the questions. So, what do you want? Let me know in the comments below. Share...

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Posted by on October 19, 2017 | 0 comments

How to Overcome Your Greatest Obstacles

Every story has a hero and a villain. The villain is the one in the way, threatening to disrupt and ultimately destroy the hero’s plans. The villain is cunning and manipulative, and will often use deception to get past the hero’s defenses. It is the persistent hero, who picks herself up after each fall, who ultimately triumphs. We are each the heroes of our own journeys, working hard to achieve our goals and make our dreams come true. However, we are also often our most formidable villains, standing in the way of our own success. What is you inner villain like? Mine is terrified of failure, therefore she pushes herself really hard; checks and double-checks; tends to seek “perfection” and is afraid to try new things… in case she’s not good at them. She’s the one I have to confront when I want to get stuff done. She’ll moan: “Will it work?” “Are you sure?” “Is there more you can do?” “How about an extra hour on preparation?” She...

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Posted by on October 5, 2017 | 0 comments

10 Life-Changing Quotes on Personal Transformation

Personal transformation is the quest we all embark on as human beings, either willingly when we choose to embrace the journey, or we are dragged kicking and screaming by the circumstances we face. Here are 10 life-changing quotes to to empower and inspire you on your journey: “We are all butterflies. Earth is our chrysalis.” – LeeAnn Taylor The journey of transformation is never ending. We transform and evolve as we open ourselves fully to all that life has to teach us. “To change who you are change who you think you are.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie As human beings we make up stories about who we are and then we defend those stories as if they are the truth! Dare to create a new story for yourself and your life, and live into it with courage. “Expansion of character is connected to expansion of destiny.” – James Tarantin Transformation of our outer world begins with transformation of our inner world. “Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we go,...

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Posted by on September 13, 2017 | 1 comment

Fail Like You Mean It

What am I doing telling you to fail? Well, there’s meaning in my madness. This is what I mean when I encourage you to fail like you mean it: Dare. Many people have lofty dreams but never get round to giving them a go. They are afraid to fail; some even fear success because of the added responsibility it might entail. Nothing will happen if you don’t dare; neither failure nor success. Is that really what you want? Take action. Nothing demonstrates commitment like action. Too often people take only tentative steps in the direction of their dreams; they hold back “in case”. Nothing changes without action. Jump in and do what it takes to turn your dream into reality. Half-hearted measures yield half-baked results. Believe in yourself. There are no guarantees. You could put in massive action and still find that you don’t succeed. Believing in yourself will keep you going even when the going gets tough. Get back up. You will fail at something at some point in...

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Posted by on August 31, 2017 | 2 comments

Change Your Story, Change Your Life

  The other day a member of the audience came to me after I had delivered a talk and she said: “Wow, your story is so powerful!” I thanked her, and I also shared with her that I had chosen to tell a powerful story of my life. Here’s what I mean: I qualified as a medical doctor but found that I struggled to find meaning in what I was doing when I was working in the public health system. I then took the decision to leave the profession and I’ve since reinvented myself as an author, speaker and coach. Those are the facts of the events that happened. Now for the story. The initial story I created out of those facts was: “I have failed. I’ve let people down. I’ve let myself down.” This was a story of guilt, shame and disappointment. This was certainly not a powerful story. Here’s the story I now tell: “As a little girl I had big dreams of changing the world. I became a...

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Posted by on August 16, 2017 | 2 comments

“Ek kan nie meer nie” and Other Lies We Tell Ourselves

When I was a 4th year medical student we were required to do an 8 week rotation in Obstetrics and Gynaecology. During the obstetric component of the block we were each given a log book in which to track the number of babies we delivered as well as the procedures such as forceps deliveries and episiotomies we observed. When I first got to the labour wards I was excited! This was our first real foray into hands-on doctoring; before that most of our work had been theoretical. I especially looked forward to helping to bring new life into the world. It took no time at all for me to become familiar with the phrase “ek kan nie meer nie”, Afrikaans for “I can’t (do this) anymore”. The women would scream it during the final phases of labour, when the pain felt too much to bear. Some would ask for an epidural, while others would insist that they be taken straight to theater for a caesarean section. A small proportion...

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