How to Figure Out What You Really Want
I don’t know what my passion is.
I’m interested in so many things, I don’t know which one to choose?
I don’t want to make a decision. What if I get it wrong?
Do any of these statements sound familiar? If so, I’m guessing you’ve spent years trying this and that, dabbling here and there, chopping and changing. You’ve probably got a whole host of diverse skills and experiences, but they don’t feel as if they amount to much. You just don’t know what you want!
If this is you, then I’ve got great news for you. It might not seem so great at first, but trust me it is. Just stay with me and you’ll see what I mean.
Here it is: You’re afraid.
That’s right. It’s not that you don’t know what you want. You do know; you’re just afraid.
Who am I to want that?
I’m not qualified.
How on earth am I going to pull that off?
I don’t have the time/money/connections.
We all have a spark within us, something we are passionate about and want to express or bring into the world. Some people are really clear about what that is; they embrace it and shout it from the rooftops. Those are the people who tend to be more fulfilled in life, the ones who are following their bliss and doing the work they are here to do.
Most people, however, hold their passion deep in their hearts. So deep, in fact, that they have forgotten where they hid it! They are afraid to go looking because they know the search will dredge up all those questions about whether they are deserving, qualified or good enough.
If you are finding yourself constantly feeling like you don’t really know what you want:
- Consider that you do know; you’re simply afraid.
- Then start to pay attention as you go about your daily life. What interests you? What gets you fired up? What do you value? What do you find engaging?
Follow those sparks. They will lead you to what you really want.